Mean Girls literally taught us what toxic friendships look like. Along with being ‘Queen Bee’, Regina George was also the personification of what a toxic friend looks like. And we all know that toxic people (especially friends) can be emotionally draining to deal with. Moreover, these toxic friends tend to win the highest level of our trust and then drain us out. They eat away at our emotions and happiness, leaving us to look for little scrapes of peace. But you know what’s worse? One isn’t really able to identify them, most of the time. Isn’t that sucky? I mean, imagine living with a Regina George by your side and not knowing it for the longest time. But fret not ‘coz we’ve got your back.
Allow me to make it easier for you to spot the Mean Girls of your life. Here are some Mean Girls-style, Regina-check signs to look out for in your best friend.
Have you ever felt like your friend always wants to make everything a toxic and dumb competition? From grades in school to how many boys you snag to how much makeup you own, everything is a contest. If this person always seems to feel the need to one-up you, you’ve got yourself a Regina, my friend.
Does your best friend try to be close with every member of your common social circle and not just you? Do they constantly want and expect everyone to be wildly interested in the minute details of their life? But the minute you or the others start discussing something important to you, they tend to zone out and it seems like they couldn’t care less. That’s a big red flag.
Is everything always about your best friend and never about you or your needs? If your friend consistently makes you sacrifice while declining your requests for small favours like borrowing a jacket or using their lipgloss, this is a major sign that you might be getting dangerously close with a Regina!
Do they always cancel plans at the last minute because of random emergencies? Do they always forget the fact that they were supposed to meet you and end up showing up later than ever? You, my friend, are stuck waiting for a mean girl and it’s time to run away.
Does your best friend constantly subject you to judgement? Whether it’s your outfit, your choice of makeup, your accessories, your grades or just your choice of cursive fonts, do they always feel like it’s their right to pass off judgements without a second thought? Yepp, they are totally trying to use Regina’s control tactic on you.
When you get a promotion at your job or get asked out by the cute boy in your class, who do you rush off to tell, right away? Is it your best friend or are you worried that they might not mirror your delight? If it’s the latter, you should get out your running shoes and flee in the other direction, as fast as you can.
Being friends with Mean Girls like Regina George can be a very emotionally as well as mentally and sometimes, even physically draining process. Real friends should fill you with energy rather than drain you, they make you feel supported, appreciated and loved and these are the friends that you need in your life. So, wave goodbye to Regina and make space for better friends. After all, we all need a Damian Leigh, don’t we?