Twitter User Highlights How A Woman’s Voice Is Crushed In Arranged Marriages
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When people say arrange marriages are scary, it is because this bond demands you to sign up for a completely uncertain future. You don’t spend enough time getting to know your partner or the in-laws. Many might argue that their experience has been a good one. However, it’s time we listen to and support the women who have gone through a hell of a time after their arranged marriage. One such Twitter user shared her life story on the micro-blogging platform. She also extended her support to all the other women who are fighting to find their individuality and voice after being pushed into an arranged marriage.
A Twitter user by the name of Chullu Supremacy took to the micro-blogging platform to open about how her life changed after agreeing to an arranged marriage. The user wrote at length about how her freedom and aspirations were crushed after marrying from a progressive family into an orthodox one. The user first mentioned all the ways is which she was restricted from living a of her own. The user’s voice, opinion and thoughts were disregarded, and she was not even allowed to meet her male friends!
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As I sit here reflecting on my journey, I can't help but share how drastically my life changed after getting married. I went from a modern, progressive family to orthodox in-laws, and the impact on my freedom and happiness has been profound.
— Chullu Supremacy (@diwaahdiva) May 30, 2023
One of the first things I noticed was how my voice was curtailed. In my new family, my opinions and desires were often dismissed or overlooked. It felt suffocating to be constantly silenced and disregarded, as if my thoughts and feelings didn't matter.
— Chullu Supremacy (@diwaahdiva) May 30, 2023
Another significant change was the restriction placed on my friendships. I was no longer allowed to meet or spend time with my male friends, even those I had known for years. The arbitrary boundaries placed on my relationships felt like a heavy burden.
— Chullu Supremacy (@diwaahdiva) May 30, 2023
To add insult to injury, I was labeled a barren woman because I made a personal choice to delay having a baby for two years after getting married. The pressure to conform to societal expectations and conceive immediately was immense.
— Chullu Supremacy (@diwaahdiva) May 30, 2023
The pressure extended beyond me to my family. They were constantly hounded and pressurized to keep me in check, to ensure I adhered to the orthodox norms set by my in-laws. It felt like my independence was being crushed from all directions.
— Chullu Supremacy (@diwaahdiva) May 30, 2023
And like many women, even her family was tortured and was asked to keep their daughter in check! The user also talked about how she was pressurised to give the family, a baby and was called “barren” when she refused to do so for two years. Her traumas did not end there as she also faced physical abuse. She was disowned by her in-laws and even her partner after giving birth to a child. The user is currently fighting her divorce case, and she also highlighted that it’s not an easy process in India unless the husband agrees to it. The Twitter user raised her voice for all the women who are going through the same kind of mental torture and abuse in marriage but are finding it difficult to fight against it.
Eventually, when I did conceive, hoping for support, I found myself abandoned. My in-laws and even my spouse washed their hands off me and the baby. There was no financial help for the baby, no emotional support, just a stark desertion.
— Chullu Supremacy (@diwaahdiva) May 30, 2023
As if the mental abuse wasn't enough, domestic abuse also became a part of my daily existence. The once loving relationship turned into a nightmare, filled with fear and violence. The walls witnessed my pain, while the world remained oblivious.
— Chullu Supremacy (@diwaahdiva) May 30, 2023
In today's world, it's more relevant than ever to create a safe support group. People who can understand your situation and provide a shoulder to lean on. Finding solace in the company of empathetic individuals has been my saving grace.
— Chullu Supremacy (@diwaahdiva) May 30, 2023
I have survived through it all, but the fight isn't over. I'm still battling to get a divorce, to break free from the chains that bind me. Unfortunately, in this country, it's not easy for a woman to separate unless the man agrees. It's an uphill struggle.
— Chullu Supremacy (@diwaahdiva) May 30, 2023
My journey is a testament to the strength and resilience of women. We endure unimaginable hardships, yet we rise. Together, we can create a world where every woman has a voice, where her choices are respected, and where her happiness is paramount.
— Chullu Supremacy (@diwaahdiva) May 30, 2023
If you're going through a similar struggle, remember that you're not alone. Seek out support, empower yourself, and never lose hope. Your voice matters, your dreams are valid, and you deserve a life filled with love, respect, and freedom.
— Chullu Supremacy (@diwaahdiva) May 30, 2023
A few days back, there was a report that showed India has the lowest rate of divorce. Well, it is quite unfortunate and nothing to be happy about. One of the many reasons for this is also that there are still many women in the country who are not given the kind of support and encouragement they need to break away from the shackles of unhappy arranged marriages. The burden of carrying the family’s respect is still put on the shoulders of a woman when it comes to arranged marriages. We need to hear more voices like them, and sometimes maybe understand them when they do not express it.
Stay strong, my fellow warriors. Let's continue to fight for a better future, where no woman has to endure what we have endured. Change is possible, and we will be the catalysts of that change. Together, we can rewrite our narratives and reclaim our lives.
— Chullu Supremacy (@diwaahdiva) May 30, 2023
Also Read: Twitter Discusses Why India’s Low Divorce Rate Is Nothing To Be Proud Of. Hard Agree!
It is true that not all women go through such horrible experiences in arranged marriages but the way some people glorify it is also not justified!
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