7 Healthy Ways To Deal With Jealousy In A Relationship
There’s nothing uncommon about experiencing jealousy in relationships. If you love someone and are in a romantic relationship, it’s absolutely normal to feel jealous every now and then. I’ve had days when I felt jealous of my partner’s friends who got to spend time with him but I didn’t, no thanks to the long-distance relationship situation. Jealousy is like just another human emotion that we all feel. Having said that it is important to understand that your emotions don’t damage your relationship and the communication and trust between you and your partner. This is why it is important you don’t hold your negative emotions inside and communicate about them with your partner in a healthy manner without getting aggressive, angry or explosive. At the same time, you also need to express your jealousy in a sensitive and compassionate manner keeping in mind your partner’s feelings, emotions and boundaries.
Here Are Some Healthy Ways To Deal With Jealousy In Your Relationship.
1. Ask The Right Questions
Some introspection can take you a long way in relationships. Understand why you are reacting the way you are reacting. Find the source of your jealousy. Most people experience jealousy in a romantic relationship either due to insecurity, low self-esteem, loneliness or due to their partner’s behavioural patterns or past history.
2. Stay Calm And Composed
You don’t want to rush into a conversation with your partner when you’re feeling overwhelmed with your own emotions. Take your time to process your emotions and take control of them. Keep your emotions in check before you talk to your partner. Allow yourself to be vulnerable and open your heart up to your partner.
3. Do Not Accuse Your Partner
It is very easy to accuse your partner instead of sharing your concerns with them. But remember that accusing your partner based on jealousy will only make things worse for your relationship. Instead of playing the blame game and hurling accusations at your partner, talk to them about YOUR feelings. Start with ‘I’ statements instead of ‘you’ statements.
4. Patience Goes A Long Way
Don’t try to rush anything. Communicating with your partner won’t immediately solve all your problems and jealousy. Have some patience and give things time. But more importantly, be sensitive and compassionate towards your partner and yourself. Talking about your jealousy and dealing with it may be difficult for your partner too.
5. Build Some Trust
Believe in yourself and your partner. Remind yourself of all the good things about yourself and learn to trust yourself, your love and your partner. In order to have a successful relationship, it is important that you trust your partner enough to stay loyal and trust yourself and your love to keep your partner grounded.
6. Positive Self-Talk
Jealousy usually roots from past relationship trauma, insecurity and low self-esteem. Building your own self will aid in eradicating issues from your relationship. Remember to never talk yourself down. Address your jealousy if and when it pops up and indulge in positive self-talk instead of negative.
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7. Consider Therapy
Remember that if you are unable to handle your jealousy and negative emotions, you always have the option to seek help from a therapist. And if that doesn’t work, you can always head out for some couple’s therapy.
Jealousy doesn’t always have to be negative!
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Keep it healthy and happy, peeps!