Why Do Guys Ghost Girls? 10 Reasons Why He Did What He Did!
Here's what you can do about it!
All is well in our love lives until one day it’s suddenly not. Everything is going well until suddenly your boy decides to stop replying to your messages. You see the blue ticks and last seen but hours and days go by with no response. You’ve officially been seen-zoned. Sometimes trouble comes knocking on the door of our paradise in the form of ghosting. And this toxic AF dating trend leaves all of us reeling with pain, loss and so many questions. Why did he suddenly decide to cut me off? Why did he see my message and not reply? What did I do wrong? Am I so bad that he felt I didn’t even deserve an honest conversation? The lack of closure along with several questions can make your head spin faster than he burnt your world down. But we’ve got the answers the ghost of your relationship couldn’t give you. Here are some reasons why he ghosted you!
1. He Thinks You’re Clingy And Needy
Some women just know what they want from their relationship and don’t shy away from getting it. But if the man sees this as clingy or needy, he may begin to feel suffocated. Relationships require people to change their priorities and value their partner over other things and people but if he’s not ready for it, he will see you wanting them to prioritise you as clingy or needy (unless you’re actually clingy and aren’t independent).
What To Do: If your partner sees your need for them to prioritise you as clingy, this person doesn’t deserve you. And if you’re actually being needy, maybe you need to take some time off dating and see why and where you’re going wrong.
Also Read: Woman’s Explanation About Why Ghosting Men Is Easier Is So On-Point!
2. He Has His Own Struggles
Women are known for their skills to multitask but thanks to patriarchy, men still haven’t developed that skill. So if by any chance he’s struggling with a personal crisis, chances are that his limited mental capacity and need to prioritise the issue at hand made him ghost you but that does not justify what he did.
What To Do: Ask yourself if you really want to be with someone who will run for the hills the second there’s trouble in his life or your paradise. Today it’s this, tomorrow there’ll be another crisis. Life is all about ups and downs and if he cannot be with you through thick and thin (both yours and his) then is it even worth it?
3. He’s Emotionally Immature
If he has seen-zoned you, no it’s not because he lost his phone or he’s swamped with work, it’s probably because he does not have the emotional maturity to end your relationship or whatever you both had with respect and dignity. This means that he does not know how to communicate and convey his thoughts and feelings. Moreover, he is also inconsistent and has attachment issues caused by childhood trauma that he clearly hasn’t dealt with yet.
What To Do: Do you really want to date someone who cannot communicate and is inconsistent AF? Yeah, that’s your answer. Go and find someone who can give you what you deserve.
4. He Doesn’t Want To Commit To You
Sure, we’ve all heard of men who have commitment issues but these issues seem to disappear when they find that one person, hai na? If he has ghosted you, you’re not the girl he wants to be tied down to. In other words, he does not think that you’re right for him and does not want to waste time talking about it or explaining to you why he feels the way he feels. It’s not that he doesn’t want to commit, he just doesn’t want to commit to you.
What To Do: If he’s someone who doesn’t even think that he owes you an explanation or a closure, why are you putting yourself out there looking for it? Quit texting him and work on yourself instead.
5. He Wants To String You Along
You know how we used to have multiple-choice questions in exams? What if you didn’t have to pick one? What if you could pick one option and have others in the backup? Yep, that’s the case here. He’s probably just stringing you along to keep his options open as he explores dating his other options without “technically” cheating on anyone. He’s checking out free samples without picking the one he wants.
What To Do: You’re not an option so you need to respect yourself enough to completely and absolutely stop being available for him as an option and shut that door and burn that bridge so, he can never return.
Also Read: Are You Dating A Psychopath? 7 Warning Signs To Look Out For
6. He Think It’s Too Much Too Soon
Sometimes some relationships go at a breakneck speed and while some people are okay with a whirlwind romance (I mean Priyanka Chopra and Nick Jonas, hello?), not everyone is. If your relationship was progressing swiftly, chances are that he needed to slow the pace down but because he couldn’t communicate his feelings he took the easy way out aka ghosting. Or maybe you were too much, too intense and too soon for him.
What To Do: Erm, it may have been too much too soon for him but if you were too much too soon for him, he’s definitely not the one for you. Accept that and move on. If two people aren’t on the same page about their relationship, it’s just not going to work out.
7. He Just Wanted To Avoid Confrontation
Some men don’t want to face the consequences of their actions which will leave them feeling guilty. In this case, he just did not want to face the music and deal with a conflict where he would’ve had to tell you how he felt and hurt your feelings which means he would’ve had to watch your heart break and face your wrath or watch you cry and he just couldn’t deal with it so he took the cowardly way out.
What To Do: Do you want to date a coward? Or do you want to be with someone who does not actually love you but is staying with you because he’s too scared of conflict and confrontation? Yeah, so just let him go.
8. He Got What He Wanted
Now this does not necessarily mean that he wanted sex from you. Maybe all he wanted was a girlfriend experience or he wanted to find out if he was ready for a relationship or maybe he was out there looking for emotional support. And now that his needs have been satisfied, he dropped you like a hot potato.
What To Do: Such people are selfish and they’re not ready to love or be loved so, it’s best to protect yourself and walk away.
9. He Has Mental Health Issues
Ghosters or, as I like to call them, ghosts usually have low self-esteem, attachment issues and mental health issues. Chances are that he’s scared to get attached because he fears being abandoned due to the ghost of his own past (aka childhood trauma). Or it could be because he thinks you’re too good for him and you deserve better and now he’s busy wallowing in self-pity instead of making himself the better person you deserve. Mental health issues like anxiety and depression can mess with one’s mind and force one to live in fear which finds its way to their relationship.
What To Do: It’s clear that your partner has issues that they need to work on and some battles one must fight on their own. You cannot fight this battle for them and it’s best to urge your ghoster or ghost to seek therapy and you must move on.
Also Read: If You Thought Ghosting Is Bad, Meet Soft Ghosting!
10. He’s Just An @$$#*!&
There are bad people in this world and maybe he was just one of them. I’m sure you’re shaking your head right now and making excuses for him because he did some nice things for you. But guess what? There are wolves in sheep’s clothing and there’s nothing we can do about it. Chances are that he was just another playboy who wanted some entertainment and now that he found something or rather someone else to pursue and he doesn’t want to deal with drama.
What To Do: It’s best to accept that bad people exist and it has nothing to do with you. He did what he did for his own selfish reasons and there’s nothing you could’ve done to change it.
First Published: August 28, 2023 11:11 AMIf You Thought Ghosting Was Bad, Meet Caspering, A New Dating Trend That’s Much Worse
