‘Called Fat If You Put On Weight, Told We Liked You Better Before When You Were Thin’ The Family Man Actress Priyamani Shamed
The weighing scales and I share a tumultuous relationship in that we don’t get along at all, much like Priyamani, I imagine. The scales sit in a corner, taunting me while I steadfastly avoid their judgemental stares even as I struggle to put my jeans on. There was time when it wasn’t so bad, when I was comfortable and was okay but that was when I could scarf down fries and it wouldn’t show on my hips. I was unhealthy, my food habits were horrible but I and my weight met society’s standards of what is considered conventionally beautiful and I was okay with it. Then, as the numbers on the scale started climbing, I was, sometimes gently, and at other times not, reminded by all and sundry that I should lose the weight. And so I know exactly what The Family Man actress Priyamani was talking about when she talked about how she was shamed for her weight.
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The Family Man 2 (we did a review, check it out here) came out recently and so Priyamani told a popular publication how she was shamed for her weight and her colour. Aah, of course we simply won’t let women be. Priyamani talked about how she put on a few kilos (as everyone is allowed to) and that she did look bigger on screen but the comments were catty and horrible. And then she shed the weight and now people are commenting and saying that they liked her better before. What!?! Priyamani is confused, as are we. Priyamani asked ” Why do you want to body shame people saying, ‘oh you’re fat, you looking like a pig or…’ Why do you want to do that?” and we think she makes a valid point.
Of course, because Priyamani is a woman, she is subject to all sorts of comments and besides her weight, people had a few things to say about her skin colour also. In a country that primarily has brown people, we are awfully concerned when someone is white enough for our taste. Priyamani said she would hear comments like, “Oh you’re looking black, you’re looking dark,’ ‘Your face is white but your legs are black’ on her posts. “I mean hello, what is wrong with you? What is wrong in being, even if I am a dark-skinned person girl, I don’t believe I am fair, I think I am wheatish.”
I don’t get it and we’ve cried hoarse about this, but we collectively, as a society need to take our nose out of people’s business and stick it where it actually belongs.
