Hautetalk: Twitter Thread Of A Man Mansplaining Feminism Is The Epitome Of Misogynistic Entitlement. Who Left Him In Charge Of Women’s Rights?
One of the funniest things I have witnessed is when men try to explain feminism to women. Because yeah, we want gyaan from the exact people who have oppressed us. And when I read this tweet by Twitter user @Mr_sozac, I couldn’t not talk about it! This man went ahead and shared his unsolicited opinion on how feminists are going wrong and what we should be doing differently. He also went on a whole tangent about how women should be submitting to men. Let’s get this man a dictionary and history lessons, people!
FEMINISM HAS BEEN WRONGFULLY PRACTICE AS AN IDEOLOGY.
Only if you see yourself as a black that's when you sense racism. A man who worship his master doesn't see it as slavery unless he is enlightened.
— Suleiman Abubakar Sodiq (@Mr_sozac) October 27, 2022
Read this Tweet and take a few minutes to try to wrap your head around what this man is saying. I’ll wait. Firstly, this is a man from Nigeria completely disregarding racism and slavery, ironic AF. But he is also essentially saying that feminism is wrong because women shouldn’t even be aware that they are oppressed in the first place. This is some The Truman Show type dystopian nonsense, if you ask me. From my understanding, he is essentially saying that unless you are aware of your marginalisation, you aren’t oppressed. Like… what?
“The purpose of education is to create a person the ability to look at the world for himself, to make his own decision”
~James Baldwin
— Suleiman Abubakar Sodiq (@Mr_sozac) October 27, 2022
Then he goes on to completely contradict his first Tweet by sharing this quote by James Baldwin. It essentially means that education is supposed to enable a person to be aware of the world they live in and make his/her own decisions or choices based on their own perception. So… why was the first Tweet talking about not being aware of your own oppression. Wouldn’t an educated person be able to fight for their liberation and freedom?
Today, education have enlightened us to know what's right and wrong, a man decide for himself sentimentality on religion, cultural or personal ideology.
To me, your way of life is your choice, we all have options but it's matter of risk, struggle, patience and endurance.
— Suleiman Abubakar Sodiq (@Mr_sozac) October 27, 2022
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Ummm… okay. Fair. A person’s education and beliefs are subjective. And the way one chooses to live their life should be and is their choice. But strap on, this ride gets wild from the next Tweet.
“Feminism” has been wrongfully practice as movement. The ideology has been advocating and defending women right, thus failed to enlighten men, to some extent advocating against men.
— Suleiman Abubakar Sodiq (@Mr_sozac) October 27, 2022
So, men can’t be “enlightened” because women are fighting for equality? Does your gender’s enlightenment depend on the oppression of your counterparts? And to be fair, women have been oppressed for decades and still are while men have been enjoying privilege and power. I don’t see any of these men being enlightened in any way. If you ask me, they have somehow managed to ruin things for everyone further.
Meanwhile, the ideology have created some illicit acts in society that make women believe that can do what men do. For example, i can have more lovers like male which is biologically and morally sordid.
— Suleiman Abubakar Sodiq (@Mr_sozac) October 27, 2022
Okay, so let’s get this straight. Women aren’t supposed to want to do things that men do because they are “illicit acts”. His example is the epitome of misogynistic double standards. A woman having multiple sexual partners is sordid and falls under “illicit acts”. But men can have as many sexual partners as they want and that isn’t morally and biologically wrong? What makes this okay for men and not for women? Is there any particular reason why women have to abide by this moral code and men don’t?
Feminism should be a movement that only educate men on what’s the right of a woman not defending women right because they don’t own themselves.
— Suleiman Abubakar Sodiq (@Mr_sozac) October 27, 2022
Only a man can find a way to make feminism about men. So, we are supposed to use feminism to educate men about women’s rights rather than using it as a tool for women to be able to fight for their rights on their own. This is essentially giving someone else the power to decide what your rights are for you and whether you deserve them. Has this man looked up what “rights” mean? Rights are essentially the entitlement to have or do something. Essentially, it isn’t for men to give them to us. These rights belong to women as they have to men all this time. Men oppressed women through multiple mediums and took those rights away from us. Doesn’t mean they are yours for us to beg from.
Women are either in the control of their father or husband, you can’t tell a woman her right when her husband or father doesn’t know her right. She will keeps suffering from the ignorance of her males.
— Suleiman Abubakar Sodiq (@Mr_sozac) October 27, 2022
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Ummm… yes you can. And does he believe that men that oppress women don’t know what these rights are? Oppressors very well know that they are oppressing someone. It is a well thought out way of holding power over someone to be able to control them and their life. But… women being taught about feminism, its history and their rights will empower them to fight for them and actually try to control their own life. Why is he advocating for men to still control how much information a woman has access to? How is that in any capacity feminism? Doesn’t that put the woman at mercy of the men in her life?
Women are like babies they’re meant to guide because they only decide based on their feelings and pleasure.
Consequently, it's the type of parenting that determines her behavior or sense of thinking.
— Suleiman Abubakar Sodiq (@Mr_sozac) October 27, 2022
Okay wow. Firstly, if this man genuinely believes that women are like “babies” and has relations with any woman, that is creepy AF. Also, don’t men in power have a history of sexual scandals and giving out jobs based on sexual favours from women? Yet we are the ones who are accused of making decisions based on “feelings and pleasure”. Also, most men have the most inflated egos ever. You look in their direction and they will come at you for having eyes. And I have seen fights breaking out over things like this. But sure… women are the problematic people who need guidance, not the ones actually acting like entitled brats.
Meanwhile, you can never change a girl that lack manners or piousness, it's her up bringing not her fault.
Simply put, personal ideology, religion and culture have created different right of what's the duty of a woman in marriage and society.
— Suleiman Abubakar Sodiq (@Mr_sozac) October 27, 2022
And what about men who almost always lack “manners or piousness”? Let’s look at an example, shall we? recently, I was on a dating app and received a message from a guy I matched with. With no “hi, hey, hello” this man directly asks if I want to sleep with him. Another guy on my DMs who I have never met directly asked me to “chill” at his place over at least asking if I am comfortable with that idea or not. But I assume manners don’t matter when you are a man. Men can act sex-starved and desperate all they like but women are villainised for declining them and for accepting the offer too. It is almost as if a woman having any sort of choice is considered criminal within itself.
All these are justifiable if her husband and father truly know the right of a woman or else she will keep suffering in the hand of her ignorance males.
If men and women are truly equal, God would have created us in same gender.
— Suleiman Abubakar Sodiq (@Mr_sozac) October 27, 2022
Did God create women as inferiors either though? We might be different but you aren’t better than us either. Neither are you superior. So who died and made you men in charge of what women’s rights are and what they shouldn’t do with their own lives and bodies? Gotta love how this God logic comes about when women are fighting for equality but not when men are acting superior. Going by this logic, men and women might have different roles to play in this world but both are equally as important. So why are women being treated like “babies” who need permission to exercise their own rights from the men in their lives but not men? And in all honesty, if God is the one who created men and women, who are you to decide what our roles are? Men weren’t representatives of God, last I checked.
No one is slave to another and your biological duty don't make you a slave. We're meant to help each other🤝.
— Suleiman Abubakar Sodiq (@Mr_sozac) October 27, 2022
Wow, so he wrote a whole ass Twitter thread about how women shouldn’t be made aware of their rights, have to be guided by men like “babies”, and how they should be given their rights by men rather than fighting for them, and then says that no one here is a “slave”. Considering the historic connotation of the word “slave”, I don’t want to go into the nitty-gritty of why that comparison is problematic within itself. And if we are “meant to help each other”, maybe actually help women be liberated and enable them to actually fight for the right to do what they want with their life and bodies. It is not for a man or anyone else to dictate what a woman chooses to do with her life. regardless of whether she chooses to do everything a man does or stick to the traditional role of a woman, it is her choice that is to be respected. Maybe this guy needs to speak to actual women before trying to teach them what they should be doing with their lives and feminism.
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