How To Know If You’re In A One-Sided Relationship? 8 Signs To Look Out For
Love is one of the most amazing, life-changing and natural feelings in the world. It happens without your control and it has the ability to change how you think, comprehend, see the world and, of course, live your life. But, this beautiful feeling can also spell chaotic and painful doom for you, if it isn’t reciprocated. One-sides is literally the worst kind of love in the world. It can make you feel incredibly lonely, hurt, broken and sad. One-sided love also has the ability to puncture your self-esteem and turn you into either a desperate or an exceptionally bitter person.
One of my closest friends had a massive crush on one of the most popular guys in school. She tried to keep it to herself but once the news was out, it spread like wildfire. She kept trying to either avoid the guy or catch his attention. This led to a very toxic cycle where she was always either thinking about him or talking about him. He had turned into an obsession that she just couldn’t let go of. It has been several years since and to date, I often catch her thinking about him. One-sided can be that strong. If you don’t catch it in time and cut the ties, it can really grasp you and change you.
The worse part about one-sided love is that is very hard to catch in the act or identify. So, are you wondering how can we identify this kind of love and rectify the situation and start fresh this year? Well, here are the warning signs!
8 Easy Ways To Identify One-Sided Love
1. They Automatically Pop In Your mind, All The Time
A very common feature of one-sided love is the fact that they usually bring their friends a.k.a anxiety and obsession with them. So, it can be easy to get lost in the thoughts of the person that you love. Have you been doing this constantly and has it started affecting your work and life? It’s time to catch this in the act.
2. They Rarely Give You Attention
Do you often find yourself craving their attention? Do you keep trying to talk to them or just exchange a nice smile with them? Does it materialise? It’s very common for the other person involved in such relationships to end up avoiding you.
3. Your Efforts Aren’t Reciprocated
You’re always making all the effort in the relationship. You always try to do everything possible to make them feel good or just smile. Meanwhile, they never appreciate this or make any efforts in return. It might be time to get a clue and stop while you’re ahead.
4. You Initiate Every Damn Plan
Are you always trying to reach out to them and try to make plans to go out, just to make sure that you meet them regularly? Do they ever reciprocate by making plans to see you or do they even include you in random group plans? Well, if they don’t, it’s time to face the harsh reality.
5. You Feel Lonely And Ignored
It’s very common for people who are in one-sided relationships to just feel ignored all the time which translates into lonely, needy and just plain anxious or sad. This is always a distressing feeling and is a major sign of the fact that the equilibrium in the relationship is off.
6. You Always Forgive Them
Does this person that you have feelings for, always ends up screwing up a lot and you just forgive them, time and again? This isn’t right. You deserve to feel angry or pissed and if you just can’t, something is very wrong.
7. You’re At Different Places
Do you constantly feel like you’re in different stages of the relationship? Does the other person seem like they aren’t as serious and as invested in the relationship as you are? It might be time to trade them in for a much better partner.
8. They Make You Feel Replaceable
This is the worst feeling in the world. When you let someone into your heart and make them feel at home, you deserve to feel the same way. Do you instead feel replaceable all the time? Do they never prioritise you? It’s time for a major change.
If these signs remind you of your own relationship and feelings in any way, it’s time to make a change. It can be a very sad and awful feeling to just give love and not receive it. It’s 2023, let the past go and start this new year with a fresh chart. Come on, you really deserve to feel loved. Give yourself a chance.
Mehak Walia is an author and journalist who is addicted to psychology, true crime, Netflix, sarcasm, and makeup!