8 Warning Signs That You And Your Partner Might Not Be Compatible!
Romantic relationships are a very important part of our lives. They can be as beautiful as a fairytale or as disastrous as a toxic relationship. But one thing is for certain. We all want one. We have grown up watching romantic movies, listening to romantic songs, and might have even seen some fun and cute relationships around us. That being said, your desire to be in a relationship shouldn’t make you fall for someone with whom you already know that things will not work out. Finding a compatible match is the most essential requirement for you to have a safe, healthy and loving relationship. And compatibility is not just about having similar interests.
Compatibility is about sharing the same values, knowing how to sort out conflicts, supporting each other’s dreams, feeling safe with each other, etc. When you find someone who is compatible with you, then the relationship doesn’t feel like a struggle. Unfortunately, not every couple is blessed with having the perfect chemistry or being totally compatible with each other. But yet we sometimes fail to notice it and try to fill the gap by working harder on our relationships. It is important to understand that when it’s not meant to be, you need to move past it no matter how much you love them.
8 Signs That You Don’t Belong Together
1. You Can’t Be Your True Self
If you feel the need to hide who you are to please your partner or you might not be open about how you feel to avoid arguments with them, then this is a sign that you both are not compatible. Feeling uncomfortable in expressing yourself can be a problem at the beginning of the relationship but if later on fear is attached to it, then it’s better to end it.
2. You Both Argue Constantly
In any kind of relationship, arguments are inevitable. Nevertheless, if you both argue all the time and even on the tiniest of things, this is not normal and can be one of the signs of incompatibility. It is also essential for you to observe if you both can work through conflicts or have to always just forget them to keep the relationship going. If it’s the latter then your relationship might not have a long life.
3. No Similar Interests At All
A relationship can work when you have different interests and sometimes people prefer their partner to have different interests. But if you both don’t have even one common interest then the relationship can become weak. Because you will have fewer opportunities to share your interests with them.
4. Unmatched Sex Drives
Being physically intimate is a very important part of a relationship. And it can be frustrating for couples if one of them has more sex drive than the other. If this is the case then, one’s intimacy needs might not be met, and the other might feel pressured to meet those intimacy needs. In the end, both are not happy in this situation.
5. No Laughter Together
According to some research, laughter is a vital sign of wellness in any relationship. Therefore, if you both don’t joke around or make fun of each other and even yourself, this can be one noticeable sign of incompatibility. Being able to tease each other in an acceptable and fun way or doing something silly together like dancing around shows you can be comfortably funny with each other.
6. Prefer To Hang Out With Friends
If you or your partner prefer to use all the energy and time for other people or things, then maybe your relationship isn’t working well enough. For any relationship to work, both should want to invest time together. This is a very important sign that you both might not be compatible.
7. Always In Doubt
One of the best things about relationships is that it provides us with a sense of security, we feel secure and content with our partner. But if this is missing and you feel more insecure than content then it’s time to rethink your relationship.
8. Uncertainty About Future
If your partner tends to avoid talking about even small things in future like taking a trip together or doesn’t include you in any of his/her plans, then this is a major red flag. You both might have different expectations of the relationship and if that is the case then it might end up in tears.
These are some of the obvious signs, but even if these signs match in your case and both of you are willing to work on your gaps and find a positive solution then feel free to ignore these. But if that isn’t the case then you need to find someone more compatible with you, which will make you happier!
Mehak Walia is an author and journalist who is addicted to psychology, true crime, Netflix, sarcasm, and makeup!