Here Are 7 Tips To Cope With Insecurity That Might Be Damaging Your Love Life
No matter how confident you feel in life about yourself, it’s not uncommon to feel insecure when you’re in a relationship. Personally, I tend to feel like I am not enough or just not good enough when in a relationship. With me comes a lot of drama and I tend to question my partner for being okay with all the unnecessary drama. And I often find it difficult to believe that someone can truly and wholeheartedly love me without any hidden agenda. And I’m sure that there are many other people like me. While it’s common to feel insecure in relationships, it is essential to understand that insecurity can do a lot of damage to your relationship and take a toll on you and your partner. At the same time, it is also important to accept the fact that we all bring some or the other kind of insecurity to the table. But second-guessing your relationship or your partner is not the right way to go. One cannot live with the fear that you are ‘not enough’ and that your partner may abandon you.
So, here are some tips for coping with insecurity in relationships.
1. What’s The Root Cause Of Your Insecurity?
Understanding the source of your insecurity can help you tackle it in the right manner to benefit your relationship. Dig deep to find the cause that is taking a toll on your romantic relationship before it’s too late.
2. What Are Your Triggers?
In order to cope with insecurity, you need to understand what triggers it. Is it when your partner talks to a certain person or is it because they said something to you to trigger your insecurities? Being self-aware about your triggers can help you identify and deal with these problems.
3. Build Self-Esteem
The biggest reason behind your insecurity is a lack of self-esteem. And the best way to get rid of it is to build your self-esteem and gain some emotional stability. Working on yourself is the best way to cope with it.
4. Is Your Mind Your Enemy?
Our minds and our thoughts can often become our enemies. Something as simple as your partner choosing to spend the day with his friends can trigger your insecurities if you let it. Overthinking is the real problem here. Most of us tend to overthink but it’s important to know where to draw a line. Don’t allow your thoughts to damage your trust in your partner and your relationship.
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5. It’s Not Your Fault
Understand and accept that everyone has insecurities and it is nobody’s fault. Your insecurities are not your or your partner’s fault. Yes, there might be triggers but you cannot blame it all on someone. It is also important to understand that it is not always about you. If your partner does not want to go out or does not want to have a conversation about something, it is not because of you. Be a little more considerate and understand there can be other reasons.
6. Do Not Compare
Do not compare yourself, your partner or your relationship with someone else, especially on social media. Everything is not real on the internet and unrealistic comparisons can trigger self-doubt and damage your relationship.
7. Open Up About Your Insecurity
The most important thing to do when trying to cope with insecurity is to talk about it. Speak to a professional if you feel the need but more importantly communicate with your partner. Communication is the key to managing your insecurities in the relationship. Let your partner know your feelings and talk things through.
