After Raping And Brutally Murdering Women, Men Claim It’s Rough Sex Gone Wrong. This Is Disgusting
Male depravity isn’t something we aren’t familiar with; it’s been a very well-known phenomenon since as far as history goes. But just every other day, we come across more ways men can find to be a hazard to us and I am genuinely baffled. Rape itself is such a heinous act and yet, sexual assault in marriage or relationships has been trivialised or not even acknowledged. And while we are fighting for it to be considered rape, several men out there are taking sexual abuse to a whole new level by blaming it BDSM.
Turns out men who rape and kill women are now using “sex game gone wrong” as an excuse to be tried for a lower intensity crime. They are making it sound like BDSM gone too far, which gives them the benefit because it’s assuming the woman must have consented to the act. And the whole situation is considered an accident due to negligence, instead of intentional cold-blooded murder.
In a study by Prof Elizabeth Yardley, a criminologist at Birmingham City University, it was concluded that normalization and even promotion of BDSM has given birth to a “culturally approved script” for sexual violence and even murder of women. She revealed that this was a new trend in terms of legal defence and at least 18 women have died in a sex game gone wrong excuse in the past five years in the UK.
Who claims "sex games gone wrong"?
A few people have asked this, so we made this infographic: pic.twitter.com/wfu9O30PPR
— We Can't Consent To This (@Wecantconsentto) April 19, 2019
Research from Lucy Snow at London Metropolitan University, in partnership with We Can’t Consent To This interviewed women on sexual violence and more than 50% of the sample size said they had experienced non-consensual BDSM acts such as strangulation or choking from a partner/ex-partner.
Fiona Mackenzie, founder of We Can’t Consent To This, said: “Strangulation of women is now culturally normalised as an expected sex act through news and magazines, through social media like Tumblr, Instagram and now TikTok, platforms with a large market with children.”
The Centre for Women’s Justice is backing calls for a new offence of non-fatal strangulation to be created and included in the domestic abuse bill. Harriet Wistrich, a solicitor who is founder and director of the centre, said: “Non-fatal strangulation is frequently used as a tool to exert power and control. It is a form of intimate terrorism.”
Dr Helen Bichard, of North Wales Brain Injury Service and the Walton Centre NHS foundation trust, said: “I am extremely concerned by the cultural normalisation of strangulation. We all protested when George Floyd was killed by the same method of carotid restraint; why are we passively allowing young women to risk his fate? The law must send a strong signal that this is simply unacceptable.”
In fact, I have stumbled upon so many women sharing on Reddit how they fell prey to non-consensual rough sex. And I don’t mean a gentle pull of hair or some crazy love bites on the neck or being handcuffed. Women have reported being slapped hard right across the face, being punched brutally and having their sexual partner choke them – all without consent. None of them wanted it or found this sexually arousing. It is not pleasure, it is plain abuse. And these men took it so far with their male depravity that they ended up killing their partners while being thirsty for the pleasure derived from sadism.
There are 50 UK women and 5 UK men who've died in what the men suspected claim is "sex games gone wrong", or "rough sex" or BDSM.
We cover these cases in detail on https://t.co/0N6S7mzu8w
There may be more we have not yet found. There are many more cases of women injured…— We Can't Consent To This (@Wecantconsentto) April 19, 2019
The Domestic Abuse Bill has been stuck in the pipeline since 2018 but will be passed this year, as reported by Cosmopolitan UK. MP Alex Chalk was quoted saying, “It is unconscionable for defendants to suggest that the death of a woman is justified, excusable or legally defensible because that woman had engaged in violent and harmful sexual activity which resulted in her death, simply because she consented.” And one cannot bring a woman back from the dead to really check if she had even consented to BDSM or was she raped by her date.
Natalie Connolly died at the hands of her millionaire boyfriend John Broadhurst in the UK in 2016. He caused her 40 injuries and left her bleeding at the bottom of the stairs before eventually calling the ambulance. He described her to be “dead as a doughnut” which is shockingly cold-blooded if it was an accident as he claims it to be.
“Wanting to “teach her a lesson” (for sending photos to other men), Broadhurst “lost it” and inflicted around 40 injuries on the heavily intoxicated Connolly, including fracturing an eye socket and severe internal trauma; he also sprayed bleach on her face because “he didn’t want her to look a mess”. Connolly was left bleeding at the bottom of the stairs,” columnist Barbara Ellen informs in her article for The Guardian.
And yet, this man walked away serving less than two years because he claimed it was a case of “sex game gone wrong” and that Natalie asked for it.
Another incident occurred with Grace Millane who was killed by strangulation in Auckland, New Zealand, by her Tinder date. Thankfully, he was found guilty of murder even though he tried to use the same excuse.
BDSM can go differently for different people with levels of roughness and pain varying. However, there is still a safe word and nobody can possibly get aroused by an eye socket fracture. Nobody consents to that!
Unfortunately, there will be so called experts and other people who will claim that a woman can die during sex due to things going too far. However, it seems like these are the same people who will empathise with rapists and trying to find a way to blame it on the rape victim. It all comes down to male privilege and depravity. Are you saying that a man’s thirst for power and sexual domination is above a woman’s life?
BDSM communities aren’t about making it so rough that someone dies while having sex. And if that happened, then it is not BDSM it is sheer negligence of your partner’s pain and intimate terrorism! BDSM communities will vouch for the level of safety and trust that goes hand-in-hand with this type of sex. There is always a safe word and things are discussed in advance.
This is just a way to manipulate the judicial system as men who are left with their egos threatened try to gain a sense of superiority back. And they do it by torturing a woman to death, naked and in the middle of her having given her trust to her date. These sadistic men enjoy the fact that their victims got fooled into believing they could be vulnerable with them. They love exploiting the bodies of their victims and get a sense of high as they make them beg for their life. And they arrive at the court claiming it was sex game gone wrong.
Yardley explained in her research that such an act “has enabled abusers to justify and excuse fatal violence against women using formal sex equality and women’s liberation against them”.
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Natalie was brutally violated by her millionaire boyfriend who even inserted the bleach bottle in her vagina after spraying her with it. And when she lay dead in a pool of blood, he went upstairs to sleep. The judicial system in the UK didn’t question that. But a woman in India gets raped and sleeps that night and it’s used against her by the justice himself. She is told it is “unbecoming of a woman” to return home after being raped and getting some sleep. So excuse me but why is this still a thing? How is it that men can brutally rape and kill a woman and have zero remorse and barely any consequences? And while that happens, women continue to be blamed for it.
