Why Do People Forgive Their Partner For Cheating On Them?
Here are some reasons!
As much as we wish things were different, cheating in relationships is more common than we’d like to accept. And what’s worse is that we often see people forgiving their cheating partners. This leaves many of us with the question – WHY! How can someone forgive their partner for cheating on them? Why would someone forgive them for infidelity? So, I decided to take a deep dive into the matter and not focus on surface-level reasons like emotional attachment and investment!
How Can Someone Forgive Their Partner For Infidelity?
To begin with, as humans, we all have trust issues and there is no way that anyone can ever truly and wholeheartedly forgive their partner for cheating on them and trust them 100% to never do it again. Most people who believe that they have forgiven their partners and trust them again are usually lying to themselves. It’s only in a rare few cases that people have the ability and the strength to actually forgive and forget infidelity. In most cases, these people spend the rest of their time in the relationships feeling insecure and struggling with trust issues until the relationship eventually withers away.
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Why Do People Forgive Their Partner For Cheating On Them?
The biggest reason why people forgive their partner for cheating on them is their emotional dependency on their partner. In most cases, the betrayed person ends up blaming themselves for their partner’s infidelity and tries to make the thing work by “fixing” their relationship because they cannot even imagine a world without their partner. In more ways than one, this comes from the deep fear of abandonment. They do not want their partner to leave them for someone else.
The fear of having to start again from scratch makes people take their cheating partners back. The fear of the unknown and the fear of having to start their life again, all alone and meet new people, be vulnerable and trust them makes it seem easier or rather convenient to just let their cheating partner come back and work hard to make the relationship work again. This essentially comes from the fear of having to trust again and be vulnerable which puts people at risk of heartbreak.
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They have both made mistakes. In cases where both partners have cheated on each other, they tend to forgive the other because they have been there themselves and expect that their partner will forgive them when they hear that they have also indulged in infidelity. For some, this gives them the excuse to cheat on their partner.
Lack of support. Many people do not have families who support their decision of walking away from their partner after they cheated on them. And then there are those who do not have financial support and are incapable of taking care of their own finances.
Kids. The one biggest reason behind people forgiving infidelity is the fact that they have kids. Couples end up staying together for the sake of their kids and the pressure to create a safe space for their kids and give them a complete family and not a broken one (not like it ends well for the kids, IMHO).
However, many times, people feel that if their partner has cheated on them once and managed to regain their trust, this person will not cheat on them again and will give them the loyalty they seek in the relationship. But in all honesty, most cheaters are unable to do that. In very rare cases, people genuinely feel guilty and change their ways but others continue to cheat until they get caught again (or don’t)!
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Manipulative partners are also known to make their significant other take the blame for their infidelity. If you have a partner who blames you for cheating instead of taking ownership of their mistakes, run in the other direction because this person is about to gaslight you into staying with them!
Having said that, there’s nothing wrong in forgiving your partner for making a mistake as long as they are genuinely apologetic and take action to make a change. To err is human and to forgive is divine and more importantly, to each their own.
First Published: June 15, 2023 6:37 PMHow To Rebuild Trust In A Relationship After Cheating? All You Need To Know
