You Love Him. He Sees You As Just A Friend. Here’s How To Deal With All The ‘Feelings’

You Love Him. He Sees You As Just A Friend. Here’s How To Deal With All The ‘Feelings’

Falling in love is a beautiful feeling. It’s butterflies and romantic songs and imaginary kisses. It’s awesome. But what happens when cupid strikes but manages to get only one heart down? The object of our desire remains unaffected and decidedly not in love! One-sided love can be painful, heart-breaking and confidence crushing. Add to that the fact that you’ve caught the ‘feelings’ for a *close friend*, and you’ve the recipe for disaster. Or it will at least seem like that. We have your back, girl. Here’s how you can handle being in one-sided love with a friend without causing too much damage. Except the kilos that will pile up from knocking back tubs of ice cream. We can’t help you with that.

Take their word for it

We hate to break it to you, but the hardest thing to do will be to not hold any hope in your heart of him liking you back. If they said they don’t have the hots for you, take their word for it. This means you got to spare yourself the horror of over-analysing. You’re great and you don’t have to change yourself to be ‘liked’ by him. Don’t be delusional and accept their decision.

Give yourself a break

Unrequited love can hurt real bad (and you know it already). You’ve decided to pick the pieces of your heart and start afresh, and that requires you to distance yourself from him. Because every time you see or talk to him, your feelings surface like bubbles in a cola. If you had a broken leg, would you go running? Take a step back from him, and allow yourself to heal. If he cares for you, he will understand.

Your feelings may be temporary

It is common to develop feelings for your close friend, because there’s such a nice connection and comfort level. But it’s possible (and most likely) that one day your crush will be crushed. You may realise that it was just a temporary phase. There’s so much love out there, why have your heart set on someone who’s friendzoning you real hard?

No blame game

Our egos can take a blow when rejected. But it’s not their fault they don’t see you that way. Remember that they do love you and care for you as a friend. And that may hurt right now, but when you lower your expectations, you’ll appreciate their care.

Can you still be friends?

One day you will be over them. You will find someone else who will love you back. Friends are really precious and letting go of one because of something that shall pass, is not worth it!  However, if you really really cannot deal with being friends with someone you once loved, let go. To repeat a cliche, there’s plenty of fish in the sea.

Don’t leave room for self-doubt

Being in a one-sided love can be detrimental to our self-esteem. We may end up feeling not worthy of love. In fact, we may over-analyse and magnify our each and every flaw. Stop that! Fall in love with yourself and wait for the guy who loves you the way you are.

Akanksha Narang

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