Jonah Hill’s ex-girlfriend Sarah Brady has been sharing screenshots of the texts that he sent her during their relationship which prove how he was emotionally abusing her. As per the tone of the texts, you can clearly understand how he was trying to control what she should and shouldn’t post on social media, and how she should stop talking to other men because it did not sit well with his personal boundaries. The screenshots of these tests have gone viral which has led to many women coming forward to share how they have been subjected to such misogynist behaviour by their partners.
This type of emotional abuse is called coercive controlling where the abuser tries to control the partner by making them empathise with them and also making them believe that they mean no harm.
One particular Twitter thread in the midst of this discussion stands out which perfectly explains what is coercive controlling, the kind that Jonah Hill tried on Sarah Brady. It will help you understand signs of emotional abuse and if you relate to this thread, abort that toxic relationship, fellas.
Shared by Dr Una McIlvenna, the thread talked about how Una had many air hostess friends who were asked to leave their jobs by their partners despite falling in love with their personalities built because of that job. These women realised that they were being emotionally abused by their partners who exercised coercive control over them.
The Twitter user also shared how Jonah Hill restricted Sarah from doing exactly those things he had apparently fallen for in the first place. These are the initial signs of coercive control where the abuser emotionally preys on their partner’s empathy. In the case of Jonah Hill, his use of therapy speak or language is how he tried to control Sarah.
He used words like boundary, trust and accountability to manipulate Sarah Brady into taking down pictures she had posted in a bikini. Hill was using therapy as a weapon to abuse Sarah, which is counterproductive to what therapy stands for. Men like Jonah pose as fake feminists to get the attention of the woman they want. And once that is achieved, they try to control her emotionally by making the empathise with their misogyny.
Also read: 10 Signs Your Partner Is Using Therapy Speak To Emotionally Abuse You
So, if you are someone who is being asked to dress, speak, act and behave a certain way by your partner, then you are being emotionally abused. There is no excuse for this. Citing past experiences as being uncomfortable with your partner’s life choices is not acceptable. It is abuse and no excuse ever justifies it.