Twitter Thread Explains What Is Coercive Control That Jonah Hill Used To Emotionally Abuse Ex Sarah Brady
Abusers have begun weaponising therapy.
Jonah Hill’s ex-girlfriend Sarah Brady has been sharing screenshots of the texts that he sent her during their relationship which prove how he was emotionally abusing her. As per the tone of the texts, you can clearly understand how he was trying to control what she should and shouldn’t post on social media, and how she should stop talking to other men because it did not sit well with his personal boundaries. The screenshots of these tests have gone viral which has led to many women coming forward to share how they have been subjected to such misogynist behaviour by their partners.
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This type of emotional abuse is called coercive controlling where the abuser tries to control the partner by making them empathise with them and also making them believe that they mean no harm.
My take on the Jonah Hill stuff. I used to be an air hostess. Those girls I worked with were hot, glamorous, fun-loving. Guys LOVED dating air hostesses, would boast to their friends about their exciting girlfriends. But there was a pattern I saw a lot. 🧵
— Dr Una McIlvenna 💀🎶 (@UnaMcIlvenna) July 10, 2023
One particular Twitter thread in the midst of this discussion stands out which perfectly explains what is coercive controlling, the kind that Jonah Hill tried on Sarah Brady. It will help you understand signs of emotional abuse and if you relate to this thread, abort that toxic relationship, fellas.
I saw it countless times while working there: guys would seek out these fun, exciting girls full of life and light, and then try to destroy exactly what made those girls shine. +
— Dr Una McIlvenna 💀🎶 (@UnaMcIlvenna) July 10, 2023
As soon as it got serious so many of those guys would start to resent her freedom, her fun, her partying. What he’d claimed to love her for originally – her light – he’d try to snuff out. +
— Dr Una McIlvenna 💀🎶 (@UnaMcIlvenna) July 10, 2023
Shared by Dr Una McIlvenna, the thread talked about how Una had many air hostess friends who were asked to leave their jobs by their partners despite falling in love with their personalities built because of that job. These women realised that they were being emotionally abused by their partners who exercised coercive control over them.
It was even more obvious when Facebook allowed us to all catch up years later. One thread, where we all discussed what we were doing now, was really depressing. +
— Dr Una McIlvenna 💀🎶 (@UnaMcIlvenna) July 10, 2023
SO MANY of those women talked about how their husband had forced them to quit their job – the one thing they really loved doing – and now that they’d divorced they could see what had happened. They realised their partners were coercive controllers. +
— Dr Una McIlvenna 💀🎶 (@UnaMcIlvenna) July 10, 2023
The Twitter user also shared how Jonah Hill restricted Sarah from doing exactly those things he had apparently fallen for in the first place. These are the initial signs of coercive control where the abuser emotionally preys on their partner’s empathy. In the case of Jonah Hill, his use of therapy speak or language is how he tried to control Sarah.
For those who think JH is just ‘setting boundaries’, he chose to be with a surf instructor and then tried to control the thing she loved, to destroy it. This happens ALL THE TIME. These are the first steps in coercive control. +
— Dr Una McIlvenna 💀🎶 (@UnaMcIlvenna) July 10, 2023
If you’re a guy who feels the need to defend him, ask yourself why. If you’re a guy who can’t understand why women in your feed are calling this abusive, ask yourself why. We recognise the red flags of coercive control, and know what it leads to. +
— Dr Una McIlvenna 💀🎶 (@UnaMcIlvenna) July 10, 2023
He used words like boundary, trust and accountability to manipulate Sarah Brady into taking down pictures she had posted in a bikini. Hill was using therapy as a weapon to abuse Sarah, which is counterproductive to what therapy stands for. Men like Jonah pose as fake feminists to get the attention of the woman they want. And once that is achieved, they try to control her emotionally by making the empathise with their misogyny.
Those who don’t recognise the red flags of the initial stages of coercive control are potentially doomed to either become abusive or to be the victims of abuse. This is why his ex sharing those messages is so important. +
— Dr Una McIlvenna 💀🎶 (@UnaMcIlvenna) July 10, 2023
If you’re with someone who tries to extinguish the light you bring into this world by making you become something they’re more comfortable with, you need to leave. They will not get better. Your life will become very miserable very quickly. Walk away. /end.
— Dr Una McIlvenna 💀🎶 (@UnaMcIlvenna) July 10, 2023
Also read: 10 Signs Your Partner Is Using Therapy Speak To Emotionally Abuse You
So, if you are someone who is being asked to dress, speak, act and behave a certain way by your partner, then you are being emotionally abused. There is no excuse for this. Citing past experiences as being uncomfortable with your partner’s life choices is not acceptable. It is abuse and no excuse ever justifies it.
First Published: July 11, 2023 11:16 AMTwitter Unanimously Agrees Jonah Hill Used Therapy Language To Manipulate Ex-Girlfriend Sarah Brady
