The dating game is much more complicated than it seems from the outside. A lot of things can go wrong when you are on a date with someone. Especially as a woman, it is so hard to make yourself comfortable around the people you are meeting for the first time. That being said, going to the second date itself is such a big decision to make. A few times halfway into the first date you get the full clarity of whether there is going to be a second date. But for those who aren’t sure where to start, here are some signs that are the indications that a second date is out of the question and it’s time y’all move on!
1. Is He Going On And On About Himself?
Here’s the thing, if your first date went by with only one person telling their whole life story, Be it you or your date, you HAVE to know that it isn’t going anywhere. One-sided conversations are a huge turn-off. I mean, imagine you go on a date and you are just listening to someone talking about how their cousin’s best friend’s vacation was. No context, no purpose. We gotta move on, babe!
2. The ‘EX’ talk
If your date gives you a long history of how their ex was crazy and how they were the victim in their past relationships. It’s “Boy, bye” time. We are not here to shit about each other’s exes and that isn’t necessarily the only way to prove that you are a good person to go out with. Honestly, I cannot go out with someone who doesn’t respect their exes. Victimising yourself to seem innocent and admirable is not the way to go!
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3. Is He Talking Over You?
Honestly, something I hate the most as a woman, especially is getting talked over. Not just by my dates, but by anyone who thinks the world revolves around them. Also talking over someone in general, be it a date setup or a business meeting, is just not cute. It’s a date, the whole point of it is a TWO WAY CONVERSATION. If you are so interested in making everything about yourself, why not start a podcast?
4. How Much Dark Humour Is Too Much?
So here’s the thing, there is a difference between being funny and making serious things funny for no reason. If I could count the number of times I have heard my dates say the most offensive things unapologetically, I’d end up questioning what humour is altogether. Making unnecessary jokes about a specific gender, sexuality or sect thinking that it’s a ‘cool’ thing to do is not okay. And they aren’t going to learn better. Hence, we move on!
5. Is He Making Sure You Know He’s Loaded?
If your date is too busy flaunting their money and trying to tell you how privileged they are, it’s a no. We do not want to hear about your money, it’s as simple as that. It’s great that you go on international trips every six months, and that you have five customised cars, good for you. Only if having money was equivalent to having an interesting personality!
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6. Is Mansplaining Normal For Him?
Last but not least, the biggest turn-off of them all HAS to be mansplaining! There is no way you can get over it, it is something that tells a lot about a person. I’ve had men mansplain me things related to my field as if they are helping me get better. I hate that men feel the need to show women they know about everything and they need to give their opinions about everything.
These are a few signs that guarantee a no-second-date and as much as you wish the person to be different, you can’t. So if you see any of these signs on your first date, it’s time to leave and move on.