Are You A Commitment-Phobe? Here Are 10 Signs To Look Out For
Catch yourself in the act!
Don’t we all wish to be in a committed relationship so that we have someone to snuggle with, go on coffee dates with or have long calls with? But some of us mostly end up alone. Another year is ending and if you are ending this year on a sad note because you are single despite being presented with various opportunities to mingle throughout the year then, it’s time to take a cold, hard look in the mirror. The problem might be you. It’s time to find out why you ran away from a potential partner, why you sabotaged your relationship when it was going well, and why you think you should be alone even when you desperately want to be with someone.
Well, if you relate to any of these statements then, there is a good chance that you are a commitment-phobe. But how can you know for sure? For us to solve this mystery, we need to first understand what commitment phobia is.
Commitment phobia or fear of commitment is when a person finds it difficult to dedicate themselves to a long-term goal in a relationship or to the relationship itself. This can apply to someone who is already in a romantic relationship or someone who doesn’t take the next step after the talking stage even when he or she likes the other person. A person with commitment issues struggles with the sense of dedication and taking the next steps which are required in or for a relationship to bloom.
Are you still confused about where you lie in terms of this phobia? Well, commitment phobia can be very common and yet, complex because each person’s traumatic experiences and reasons differ variedly. But, here’s a list of some common signs to clear out your doubts.
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10 Signs That Indicate You Are A Commitment-Phobe
1. You tend to avoid making future plans with your partner.
2. You avoid even talking or thinking about the future of your relationship.
3. Serious or long-term relationships are always out of the question for you.
4. You prefer emotional detachment and run away when you start developing feelings.
5. You nitpick about small things.
6. You remain distant and do not maintain consistent communication with your partner.
7. You have a history of short-lived relationships only.
8. You have a hard time making a move.
9. You rarely use the word ‘love’.
10. You’re incredibly scared of getting hurt and losing your freedom.
These are some of the signs you can notice and become self-aware. After all, only when you know and accept that a problem exists, can you find a solution to that problem. So, if you have all these signs then there is a very high chance that you are a commitment-phobe.
We understand that this might sound scary but if you are struggling with this and want to get over this fear then there are a few things which might help. Try talking about it with your partner or someone you trust, you could also try committing to small things in your relationship. Talking to a professional therapist to find out the root cause of these commitment issues can further help you to tackle them, as well.
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In the end, everything boils down to what makes you happy, so don’t be afraid to pursue something or someone who might make you happy. Getting over being a commitment-phobe can be a difficult job but it becomes a little easier when we ask for help from others. Remember, you deserve to be happy too.
First Published: December 15, 2022 10:20 AMThe Fear Of Ending Up Alone, Is It Driving Our Love Lives More Than We Realize?
