6 Problematic Things He Does In The Name Of Love That You Shouldn’t Be Okay With
Don't ignore these red flags!
Love is a beautiful feeling but this emotion is also known to turn us so blind that we fail to spot red flags and problematic behaviour. Since we’ve all grown up watching Bollywood films and shows, we’ve been conditioned to ignore many problematic things that our partner does and says and most of the time, they pass off their toxic habits as normal in the name of love. Relationships are all about trial and error but how are you even supposed to know the errors if you’re so blinded by love that you can’t spot problematic statements or behaviours? But worry not, we’ve got your back. We’re going to share some Ranbir Kapoor references to help you spot unhealthy behaviours that we think are normal in relationships.
6 Toxic Behaviours That We Think Are Normal In Relationships
Unfunny, Body-Shaming Jokes: Remember when Ranbir Kapoor spoke about how his pregnant wife Alia Bhatt has phalaoed? He may have said it as a cute joke but it wasn’t funny at all. No one was laughing at him calling Alia fat when she was pregnant. If your partner also cracks jokes at your cost that body-shame you and make you uncomfortable, feel free to call it out and if your partner says they’re doing it out of love to push you to get fit, know that that’s not okay! ICYMI, giving you a “cute” pet name to body shame you isn’t nice either.
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Controlling Behaviour: Alia Bhatt found Ranbir Kapoor asking her to “wipe off” her lipstick because he likes the natural colour of her lips cute but you shouldn’t find it cute if your partner does something like this to you. If you too find your partner showering you with underhanded compliments or trying to control you by showering you with love, walk away. If he’s asking you to change your clothes because he wants to protect you or if he wants you to not wear makeup because he likes you just the way you are, know that it’s not okay. It’s fine if your partner expresses how they feel but it’s only fine as long as they don’t expect you to do things as they like it.
Guilt Tripping: If your partner guilt trips you into doing what they like and attempts to control you, that’s not cute or something they’re doing out of love. For example, toxic behaviour would be if your partner says things like he doesn’t feel like eating dinner alone and he will wait till you get home knowing that you’re busy with something and won’t be home on time.
Feigning Incompetence: It’s not uncommon for people to feign incompetence and weaponise it to get others to do their work for them. But it’s also common for people to feign incompetence and pass it off as love. Case in example, Ranbir Kapoor once said that he doesn’t shower or eat unless he knows where Alia Bhatt is. It may seem cute on the outside but is it really? Is it okay for an adult man to act like a kid and refuse to do the most basic things unless he knows where his wife is?
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Setting Boundaries: Remember when Alia Bhatt revealed that she has to keep her anger in control because Ranbir doesn’t like it if her sound goes above a certain decibel? Well, it may seem like he’s setting a boundary for himself but in reality, he’s putting together a rulebook on how his partner should behave. It’s okay to tell your partner that you’re not comfortable with them yelling but you cannot dictate how they can and cannot react in anger or in any other situation for that matter. It’s very Jonah Hill behaviour TBH!
Possessiveness And Jealousy: Films have time and again told us that if your partner is jealous and possessive it just means that they love you but no, that’s not the case. If your partner has a problem that someone else is making you laugh or smile but they want to be the only one to do it, that’s not cool. If they can’t be happy that you’re happy, there’s something seriously wrong with them. It’s not very cute when your partner is ready to rip into someone or lash out at you because they’re jealous!
These red flag behaviours may have been normalised to the point where some of us even find it attractive. I mean, we did in some ways like Kabir Singh. So, it’s important to unlearn that and call a red flag a red flag!
First Published: August 24, 2023 11:46 AM
