Boysober

As someone who got into the dating game late and is quite literally screaming abort, I can assure you of those who've been in it since sixteen and are definitely finding it exhausting. Finding god in times like today is an easier task to take on, but a lover, umm...not so much of a cakewalk. Swimming amidst a pool of words that scream–breadcrumbing, love bombing, situationship, benching and whatnot, most of our ships are not finding a shore and it feels like we're PMSing all month long, thanks to overstimulated emotions. But fret not, it's time for boysober! With time, dating apps have also lost their charm, and we are almost on the brink of losing out on our will to fight for the love story we always dreamt of. And while I tackle my daily chores, alongside the task of finding the red, white, green, pink and all the coloured flags in a man, this new trend on the internet is giving me a breather. For those who flock to Instagram but don't dig that deep, let me introduce you to Gen-Z's new favourite term–Boysober. Convincing millions to stay single, Boysober is the knight in shining armour, that we ladies were actively looking for. But Wait, What Is Boysober? For the layman or every man to get a clearer idea, Boysober is a fancier name for celibacy and is like a subscription to remaining single for a year long, as you redirect your life away from love, relationships and dating and move towards self-care. And yes, this also means driving away from meaningless sex. The term found its existence on Earth, thanks to comedian Hope Woodard. According to Woodard, the term was coined to unlearn toxic relationship cycles, avoid unrequited anxiety and just discover oneself instead of getting into a toxic turn of events that dating today brings to us. Pretty much like quitting drugs, Boysober is here to keep you away from men, who often say–I really really like you, but I am not ready for a relationship. But can we please be friends? Hell, no! Also Read: 5 Reasons Why Virat Kohli Is The Ultimate Green Flag We Wanna Steal From Anushka Sharma! Why Is It Important To Go Boysober? While many who are at the cusp of touching their 30s are running around, hopping through dates in hopes of finding a partner, this trend actually helps you to slow down. In a world that runs on clocks, and timelines, Boysober will give you time to reflect and rejuvenate for a relationship that is worth your attention. This time is somewhat offering you the space to mourn instead of moan over all the times you turned into a doormat for all the guys that gave you hope of a relationship. Like a detox for your body and mind that's not running the race for male validation or indulging in sex that doesn't feel good. Unlike celibacy, Boysober is a choice and is also a sex-positive dating trend. In the times where the internet serves dopamine through a like, share and chat button, toxic dating patterns have us exhausted, and unfulfilled, offering the gift of trauma with a pink ribbon on it. And Boysober helps you slow down, take the back seat and heal for the men, who equally wanna heal for you. Actually, just take a break, sis! How To Build Your Boysober Routine? If just like me and many women around the globe, you thought dating would be fun, which it isn't anymore, then please build yourself a Boysober routine. Take a U-turn from men who only know how to love bomb, and run for your life sis. Here are some things you could try! Don't Find A Hobby, Please Relax Let's face it, boy breaks can be tough. Why? Because who doesn't love some validation? But as you step away from the toxicity, don't listen to every podcast-y advice about going on a hike or subscribing to a painting class. Just sit back and relax. This season is all about embracing the rested woman in you, who isn't chasing but lazing. Enter The World Of Pinterest For art girlies and dreamers, Pinterest is like a tunnel to escape the filth that sometimes the real world serves us. You may wanna refresh your Pinterest tabs and actually build new vision boards for your year ahead. And yes, there is no harm in raising your standards of love, while skimming through Polaroid pictures of cute American men, bringing flowers for their girlfriends. Pack A Punch Of SMUT You're adhering to Boysober, but don't put a break on your pleasure girls. Go the old-school way and add a bunch of SMUT books to your shopping carts. Some steam wouldn't hurt nobody! Reconnect With Your Girl Gang Girl therapy is real and you must indulge in it. For some change, don't talk about boys or decode the reasons behind your crush from a faraway land liking your story. Plan a trip, do makeup together or just have conversations that serve your soul. This season, stay away from men, situationships, crushes and everything that takes you towards a breakdown. Just enjoy this singlehood, ladies. It is actually fun. Also Read: 5 Signs Why You Should Move On From Your Ex. It’s High Time!

Boysober

What Is Boysober, New Dating Trend We Urge Ladies To Follow? It’s Time To Detox From Men, Situationships, And More