Debunking 7 Sexual Stereotypes That Are Turning Into Norms. Let’s Normalise Sex And Sexual Health!
Have you noticed how the colour of the blanket a baby is wrapped in depends on their gender? This is just one of the many subtle ways how from the moment of birth, we have been taught to mould our preferences, behaviours and abilities to suit the socially acceptable stereotypes of our genders and this isn’t just in our public life but also dictates our most intimate areas of life. This is why subtle cues about what is “manly” and “ladylike” even exist in terms of sexual behaviours and preferences.
Interestingly, we work hard to follow these pre-existing stereotypes and keep them alive and thriving by believing in them and following them. These stereotypes have become such a common part of the life of most people that they are now termed the norm. September is World Sexual Health month so, let’s explore these prejudices and debunk them.
7 Sexual Stereotypes That Have Been Accepted As The Norm:
1. Men Belong On The Top
It has been long believed that men belong on the top every time because they are the ones who should be leading the sexual experience, they are the ones who should be in control or be dominant or else the man isn’t ‘masculine’ enough and the woman isn’t ‘feminine’ enough. But, this isn’t the truth as both men and women are equals and can easily change roles.
2. BDSM Promotes Violence
Getting a little wild and rough in bed will surely make you an aggressive person, right? This notion is completely untrue, your way of sexual pleasure will not make you more likely to be involved in physical violence and consensual people who like it a little rough is their choice of poison, kink-shaming them isn’t appropriate at all.
3. It’s All About Male Pleasure
If this is the case then there shouldn’t even be two people involved in sexual relationships. It is just ridiculous to value male pleasure more than females. All parties involved deserve to be satisfied and their pleasure needs to be valued just the same, female pleasure matters too, doesn’t it?
4. Sex Toys Ruin Relationships
On the contrary, they add spice to your sex life, they take you to a level you haven’t experienced before. Sex toys alone cannot satisfy one much as them being an add-on to your experience. Let them help you explore you and your partner’s body to a fabulous, new level.
5. Male Libido Is Higher Than Female Libido:
This is a common conception because of the ingrained habit of women of show disinterest or being shy towards anything sex-related. Women for generations have been conditioned to suppress their sexuality and their libido. This, however, isn’t true. Women are just as much interested in sex as men and sometimes, even more.
6. Sex Is Only Meant For Reproduction
This is just like going into an ice-cream parlour to just buy vanilla flavour because your dentist recommended it. Sex is a whole experience which deserves to be explored in as many ways as possible, the very base of sex is a pleasure. Let your body find its rhythm and let it speak to you.
7. Women Who Want Pleasure Are Sluts
This is just another example of how society has tried to keep women’s sexuality in control. Women are also humans who have every right to be pleased and definitely shouldn’t be shamed for it. We deserve to ask for what we desire and have it fulfilled too.
Also Read: 2022 Is The Year Of Self-Love. 9 Things You Can Do For A Better Sex Life And Improved Sexual Health
It’s time to let go of these gender roles and gendered stereotypes and live your life to the fullest. Let’s learn to look at sexual pleasure as a free-flowing and wild fountain, meant for everyone irrespective of their gender.
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