Reddit Users Share Tips To Tackle A Partner Who Shames You For Not Wanting Intimacy. S*xual Shaming Is Not Cool!
The idea of intimacy is different for different people. Here's a solution for when your partner wants sex but you don't!
The idea of intimacy is different for different people. While some are okay with getting physically involved with their partners without any emotional base, some others refrain from physical intimacy. And this discourse about finding the right time to get physical in a relationship has taken over Reddit. In many cases, we’ve seen that a few partners, especially males, often shame their partners for not wanting to get intimate.
A few, I’ve heard “shame” their partners, call them “insecure,” as a tool to gaslight and get physical, some others simply guilt trip them for not wanting to get intimate. Discussing the same, a Reddit user dropped a question for their fellow users and enquired–”How would you handle a partner who guilt trips you for not wanting to be intimate?”
Responding to this most Reddit users suggested to stand your grounds if you’re not open to intimacy. Some of these reactions were–”They’d cease to be my partner pretty quickly Emotional manipulation isn’t very sexy.””A man who would take a pity fuck over a “no” is not someone I’d want to be with.” Well, most of the people responded by saying “No,” when their partners tried to manipulate them into getting intimate.
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Some Reddit users were solution-driven and came up with better answers–”I would leave them. I’m not a s•x toy. I am not always going to be in the mood just like They might not always be in the mood. It’s never okay to push anyone to get intimate. Especially not trying to guilt trip them. If they are that aroused they are welcome to take care of it themselves or take a cold shower. If that’s not good enough they are welcome to be single and find someone with their same s•x drive.”
“This is a form of sexual assault called coercion rape. I’m normally a private person and rarely discuss my personal experiences, but sometimes, I feel it necessary to share my experiences to help others. I’ve had to learn in therapy that there are many different forms of rape and I’ve had almost all of my ex-boyfriends guilt trip or coerce me into being intimate with them. I had one therapist ask me if my boyfriend didn’t want to have sex with me, would I do the same? My answer is obviously no. This question she posed has stuck with me for years. She then went on to explain that this is a form of rape. No one should be made to feel guilty or shameful for not doing anything that they are not comfortable with. Man or woman.” Some others also said that it is a “deal breaker.”
Well, in my opinion, if your partner is trying to forcefully get intimate with you then please run!
First Published: July 23, 2024 5:51 PM
