Unpopular Opinion But Here’s Why A Long-Distance Relationship Works For Me!
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When I tell people I’m in a long-distance relationship, they often look at me like I’ve signed up for a voluntary heartbreak. This is often followed by the crucial question, “How do you do it?” The tone is dangerously similar to someone consoling a friend going through a breakup. But contrary to popular belief, I love my long-distance relationship. It’s not some exercise in suffering or a stopgap arrangement until we can finally share a zip code. It’s much more than that.
Let’s start from the beginning, while all great love stories start with the protagonist saying, “I wasn’t looking for love, it just found me,” mine was similar because I am no different. In the world of modern dating, I also went on to triumph in love on a dating app, because again, I am no different. But that one swipe changed my life.
First date, first kiss, first I love you, and a few months later, I was ready to jump on board a long-distance relationship, knowing absolutely nothing about it. But I bet on my partner. The first call after he left was awkward, and tricky, just like the first date. But the act of waiting, of counting down the days and hours, turns every reunion into an event worthy of a Taylor Swift bridge. So incestuously, I sat down to write an official justification for each person that I have or have not met.
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Here’s Why I Love My Long Distance Relationship
Long-distance love for me, redefines freedom and security. It’s the best of both worlds—a relationship that celebrates individuality while nurturing communication. Being in my early 20s, I need a space to grow as an individual. Be it going out with friends or just working the entire day, this is what I crave to do. But mostly, binge-watch old episodes of The Office for the millionth time without distraction.
I can build my life on my terms, knowing he’s always just a text, a call, or a quick video chat away. It’s like having the ultimate safety net—one that catches me when I fall but never confines me. And then, there’s the travel. What used to feel like a chore—security lines, delayed flights, overpriced airport coffee—has transformed into an exhilarating prelude to love. Every visit is a journey into newness: exploring a city neither of us has seen before, rediscovering the comfort of each other’s presence, or simply walking hand-in-hand as if the world exists just for us.
Having said that, some nights, the ache of his absence settles over me like a stormy cloud, and I’d trade anything for the simple comfort of falling asleep with him. There are moments when his voice on the phone feels both too close and heartbreakingly far. But that longing? That ache? It’s a reminder that what we share is real, raw, and worth the wait.
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Here’s How Long Distance Helped Our Relationship
It’s taught us to communicate with intention and to never take a single second for granted. Our relationship feels like a secret rebellion against the notion that love is only valid when shared in the same space. Instead, our love spans time zones, carving out its unique rhythm and defying the gravitational pull of doubt. Just FaceTiming ourselves cooking together, drinking together, and achieving things together, while being together is a feeling unmatched.
All the fights, the drama, the losses, felt personal even after being time zones apart. While many people ask me to go out and see what’s there, I tell them, I experience everything out there, with my best friend by my side, which to me, is a privilege. While I understand many people don’t have the same point of view, this was one of the hardest and the most profound things I’ve had which gave me the courage to take up challenges in life.
And as Tom McNeal once said, “Distance means so little, when someone means so much.”
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First Published: December 18, 2024 3:06 PM
