The discussion around love, dating, relationships is never ending with newer trends and experiments jumping in. The recent one is the practicality of polygamy and we can blame Bigg Boss OTT 3 fame Armaan Malik and his two wives Kritika and Payal Malik for the same. However, Reddit is on some different trip and dissecting the truth behind “open relationships” and if they actually work.
Many real-life couples weighed in their views and shared if such relationships actually work. Sharing personal experiences a user wrote–”Sure. My wife and I are “monogamish”. We’ll hook up and then go home to each other. And we pretty much only hook up with people that understand that. They can be friends and hang out, but they’re not gonna be part of our romantic relationship.” They also laid down the importance of “aftercare” and wrote–”Affection and kindness are not limited to just us. But they’re not moving in and meeting the kids, and I’m not meeting their family as their boyfriend. If I say I’m married up front, most people understand the expectation.” Other Reddit users paid attention to the rules and said–”We have been swingers for >20 years, never an issue. We have some simple rules: Never play alone, never go on a date alone, never play with the same people more than 1x-2x a year.”
One Reddit user shared a unique perspective and mentioned that open relationships will work when–”If everyone has their person – their primary partner/nesting partner, then it’s so much easier to handle those emotions.” Another user argued against polygamy and said–”I would argue that open relationships are even harder to make work than Poly relationships specifically because they seek to limit/eliminate romantic feelings, which occur outside of choice.” Many advocating polygamy also revealed that this concept helps in improving the life of your relationship with the primary person. Not just that, but many said that having “open relationships,” also improves communication. Well, that’s unique.
On the emotional front, one user also suggested–”A successful open marriage means understanding that your spouse puts you first and, no matter what happens during the day, they’re coming home to you and sleeping in your bed. While it’s very easy to understand on a rational level, it can be very difficult to internalize on an emotional level.” I mean of course, casual for one person makes the other a casualty. Right?
Well, tell us your take on open relationships!
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