A Warm Welcome To The Era Of Outercourse: It’s All About Emotions, Connection, And The Love!

Have you ever just wanted to hold hands with your partner, feel comfortable in their arms, kiss down their neck and just glance lovingly in their eyes? What about cuddling with them and holding them close through the night? Sound like perfect moments that we just dream of, doesn’t it? This is exactly why the new evolving term ‘outercourse’ is trending lately. It can be described as the physical act of love without sexual intercourse, i.e. penetration of the vagina.

Outercourse is considered to go beyond the physical bounds of intercourse, it dives in deep to feed our emotional sides, and on forming a deeper and more intimate connection with your own body and your partner. It is about “consciously building up arousal and entering into prolonged states of pleasure”, as described in a research article by Joseph E. LeDoux and Richard Brown in PNAS. People have lately been engaging in outercourse a lot and they all seem to have different reasons for wanting to opt for the same. Some of the most common ones could be…

1. They are seeking to abstain.

2. They want to practice safer sex.

3. They want to spice things up.

4. To avoid chances of pregnancy.

In a world full of distractions like social media, technology, pornography and unnecessary sexual innuendo, our over-sexualised lives have filled us with trauma, stress and the idea of instant gratification. It’s time to shake this up with a slow and intimate re-connection with our bodies and our partners. This can be done through the beautiful and loving art of outercourse.

Sexual outercourse is also more about being in the moment and experiencing each moment with love and touch. It is about forming an emotional intimacy with your partner, this can help new couples gain each other’s trust and older couples find their passion again through a set of sexual activities.

Wondering how to experiment with outercourse? We’ve got you covered with an exclusive list of the things that you can try.

Amazing Outercourse Ideas To Try As A Couple

1. Erotic talk And Sensual Storytelling

When we have sex, we tend to forget the part that can help us connect in the moment i.e. communication  So, sit together but without touching each other, try to talk sexually to your partner. Let them know about the things you would like to do to them and let the imagination flow. This can even be done over the phone or via text

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2. Try Some Sensual Massage

Light some candles, set up some incense and let the rose petals kiss your bed as you create an ambience to surprise your partner. Relieve their stress with this massage, and work on every part of their body with that titillating touch. You can even sit facing each other, look into each other’s eyes and massage each other at the same time!

3. Kiss Each Other Like You Mean It

When was the last time you kissed your partner just for the sake of kissing them? Do it. Kiss them and not because it would lead to sex but, just a good ol’ makeout session like you probably engaged in when you were a couple of teenagers. This will ignite the flame without a single doubt.

4. Mix It Up With Masturbation

Masturbation is the safest form of sex and it will help you to understand your soft spots and explore them, making you discover your body in an entirely new way. You can also involve your partner in this with mutual masturbation as masturbating together can stimulate each other in oblivion.

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5. Dry Humping And Sex Toys

The simple act of rubbing against each other can help you both satisfy each other and it may even cause you to orgasm. You can take this a step further by using sex toys to explore and caress your partner’s body. Use remote-controlled toys in public spaces to add that splash of space that might be missing from your relationship. While it is safer than other forms of sex there is still the risk of getting STDs because of the exchange of bodily fluids and contact in intimate areas. so, use condoms even on sex toys involved. Also, a different condom for the anus and vagina.

Explore with outercourse and give yourself and your partner a chance to fall in love, all over again. It’s about time that emotions and connection take the throne in our relationships. Sounds perfect, doesn’t it?

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