10 Ways To Make Peace With Your Best Friend If She Is Dating Your Ex
Learn to maintain a distance.
Relationships are bound to get messy when it involves three people. This is not the threesome you would enjoy being in. I am not talking about cheating this time, but those situations where your best friend ends up dating your ex. It might be shocking at first, and even feel betrayed. But it is important to handle this situation carefully. So, if you are stuck in a Made In Heaven-like situation where your best friend is dating your ex, here’s how you can make peace with her.
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1. Communicate
Communication is the biggest key with which you can unlock this Pandora’s box. Yes, it will be awkward but you will only understand her side of the situation if you communicate.
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2. He’s your ex, so he’s not cheating on you
You will also have to understand that he is your ex, and everything between you guys is over. So, if you feel he’s cheating on you, honey, he is not. You have no control over the relationships he’s having after breaking up with you.
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3. Don’t be jealous of your best friend
There is no point in feeling jealous of your best friend. Accepting the situation is the only way forward here.
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4. Ask her to not share details of her relationship with your ex
Irrespective of the fact that if the breakup was amicable or ugly, ask your bestie to not share details of the relationship. If she’s your true friend, she will understand but if she is purposely sharing deets, you know it’s time to break up with her too.
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5. Don’t make your best friend feel guilty
Your relationship not working out with your ex was your problem. You both were not compatible. So, don’t make your best friend feel guilty about dating your ex. You should also not share the memories you have of dating him.
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6. Don’t worry about other people’s opinions
Society will judge you irrespective of the fact that you are single or mingle. So, don’t worry about what they say. Instead, take a stand for yourself so that they don’t pity you.
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7. Respect your best friend’s life
It is understandable that you might not be comfortable with your best friend dating your ex. But that does not mean you cannot allow her to be happy. Let her live her life and don’t be the one to judge her.
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8. Don’t badmouth either of them
Don’t be the evil friend! Don’t badmouth your best friend and ex to each other. Being a catalyst in their breakup will only make you look bad, not them.
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9. Unfollow them on social media if their posts make you uncomfortable
Now, you cannot ask your best friend to stop posting about her relationship with your ex. So, the wise thing would be to unfollow the from the platform where they post.
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10. Don’t cyberstalk your best friend
Cyberstalking your best friend will only stress you out more about what she is doing with your ex. It is none of your business what she does with him or what time she is meeting him or where they go on their dates.
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Also read: Ladies, These 10 Toxic Things Are Ruining Your Female Friendships. Stop Doing Them Now!
Yes, creating boundaries will be difficult initially but you will have to try and maintain them. Or in a worst-case scenario, you will have to cut ties with your best friend and if you are ready to do this, it is fine too.
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