When you’re plus-sized, it can be hard to deal with a lot of times throughout the year but the festive season and the wedding season top all the charts. People often say that there is more of you to love if you’re plus-sized but what they don’t realise is that there is more of you to hate on also. It’s very hard to deal with the self-hatred that runs through our minds at all of these times, isn’t it?
Furthermore, this bitter hatred is increased and majorly intensified because of all the comments left by the crazy, annoying and screwed-up relatives, that run around you, during the wedding season. Isn’t it? Then comes the eating part, huh? Come on, we all know this part can be very disastrous and chaotic.
Eating And Drinking During The Wedding Season
Eating and drinking is always a guilt-laden experience for plus-sized people. Personally speaking, I have always had the horrible habit of counting calories in my mind while eating and drinking during these occasions. This keeps me from having fun or even being happy during the auspicious occasion. I’m barely able to enjoy all the food because I don’t let myself do it, how sad does that sound, huh?
We already know that this season also brings sleepless nights, eating and binge drinking. So, there is room for lots of indulgences and even negligence of health. This can be worse when you’re plus-sized because people keep pointing out the fact that you’re over-eating or drinking. This is the worst because we’re already loaded with guilt and doing this to ourselves. This is one of the examples of awful social interactions that you have to go through as a plus-sized person.
Social Interactions During The Wedding Season
After the previous season of fashion weeks, I was hoping that being plus-sized would become better and acceptable but nah, no such luck. Last week, a friend asked me if a plus-sized person could ever become socially acceptable and this literally shocked me. Why is it so wrong to be plus-sized? For someone who has been plus-sized for most of her life, having to face questions like these is very common. However, what is infuriating is that the more inclusive the world becomes, the louder these questions get. How does that even make sense? These questions get even worse during the wedding season, don’t they? It’s extremely hard to deal with them.
Just the last week, a distant aunt walked up to me during a function and asked me why I don’t get my PCOS and Thyroid tested. I mean, I already know I have them, why do you have to ask me dumb stuff, just because of my weight? Another statement that always annoys me is the fact that most relatives believe that I would be incredibly pretty if I shed some weight. It sucks.
Honestly, The real question is how can something that represents more than 60% of the country’s population not be mainstream and acceptable? The fashion industry has been struggling with this conundrum for ages, this is what makes dressing up during the wedding season worse. Doesn’t it?
Dressing Up During The Wedding Session
Dressing up is another issue especially during the wedding season, because of the major lack of options for us in almost every store. Either it’s extremely loose kurtis or extremely useless and annoying suits which could never work for anyone. Don’t plus-sized women deserve to look gorgeous with nice silhouettes, vibrant colours and trendy designs?
I recently had to go to a wedding where they decided that the dress code should be black and white. I literally had to look through thousands of stores for great-looking and customisation options for my size but it was a painful experience and it was all in vain. Then, I ended up finding a small business on Instagram. I literally got lucky but it sucks that we have to work this hard just to find good clothes. I hate this.
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I swear, I genuinely believe that getting well-dressed for the wedding season and surviving it as a plus-sized person deserves a plus-sized praise, doesn’t it?