Malaika Arora Struggled To Co-Parent Son Arhaan With Arbaaz Khan; 5 Co-Parenting Tips To Find The Perfect Balance!
From good communication to self-care, here are 5 tips for you to nail that co-parenting game like Malaika and Arbaaz.
Co-parenting as a subject is not discussed often, even though it is essential for a child’s upbringing. Many people with children get separated or divorced, but raising a child with a broken relationship can be hard on parents. Recently in an interview, Malaika Arora also spoke about her co-parenting experience with ex-husband Arbaaz Khan and how it was very tricky in the beginning. A person might be overwhelmed after such a life-changing thing, even if the separation happened very peacefully. Losing an important part of your life can be hard and on top of that navigating parenting along the way can truly take a toll. But we’ve decided to make life easy for you. Here are 5 tips which can help you sail through co-parenting with your ex like a pro!
1. Never Use Your Kid(s) As Messengers Between You Two
Bitter or awkward feelings might still feel fresh and might never even go away but one important thing to remember is that these are your problems to deal with and not your child’s. If you make your child the messenger between you and your ex, they will also be involved in a conflict. You have to keep compartmentalising these feelings and talk to your ex directly. Saying negative or bad things about each other in front of the child can mess up their mental health and it would also make them feel like they need to choose a side. Your child should have a relationship with both their parents without interference.
2. Be A Team When Making Important Decisions
It would be an ideal situation if you both agree with each other’s parenting style and would acknowledge them and have proper communication. But if you don’t agree with each other, then you should sit down and discuss such decisions with each other. Having consistency would be good for your child as they will get confused if you and your ex have different opinions and decisions on the same thing. Trust each other’s love for the child, and don’t micro-manage smaller decisions. But for the bigger ones like schooling, medical care, etc., if you are having trouble, meet with a parenting counsellor to resolve such issues.
3. Stay Firm On Your Parenting Schedule
Once you are set on your parenting schedule, don’t fiddle with it much. Scheduling time very often or cancelling due to reasons might make you think you are making your child adaptable to flexibility, but it is only doing them a disservice. Your child needs to know that you are there for them and that they can count on you even if it is only on weekends. That is how you can gain their trust essentially.
4. Say Positive Things About Each Other
Saying things like, “Your father makes delicious eggs,” and ” Your mother always suggests the best restaurants,” might feel like a big deal initially but trust your child to feel safer after listening to you appreciating your ex even after the separation. It will make them feel like it’s still a safe place to talk about the other parent in front of you.
5. Focus On Self Care
Co-parenting with your ex can feel exhausting (especially if the breakup was ugly). Always trying to be positive for your child can feel like a task when you are dealing with the loss of an important relationship in your life and navigating how to start life from scratch yet again. So, take a moment and self-talk, meditate, whatever works for you. Your mental health needs to be put first. It is also good for your child to see you doing something good for yourself. So take care of yourself and nail this like a pro!
Also Read: 5 Signs Why You Should Move On From Your Ex. It’s High Time!
First Published: June 28, 2024 11:19 PM
