Nick Jonas’ Ex Olivia Culpo Says Her Identity Was Him During The Relationship. 6 Ways To Maintain Your Sense Of Self When In Love
Love is such a beautiful feeling and we often tend to let ourselves love too hard and end up losing ourselves in our relationships. And it’s so easy to do it, isn’t it? Recently, our very own national jiju, Nick Jonas’ ex-girlfriend Olivia Culpo spoke about her relationship with the singer at the premiere of her new reality series The Culpo Sisters. Olivia revealed that she dated Nick during her formative years and she moved to Los Angeles with him at a time when she had no brand or money and was in love. Speaking further she shared that while her relationship with him was great, she was left with no sense of identity when he broke up with her more so since her whole identity was him which, sadly, is a common phenomenon among young people in love. The model also revealed that she thought they would get married but the breakup was an eye-opener and was a “serious and pivotal” moment for her.
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As much as I love that feeling of young and pure love, what Olivia Culpo said is a sad reality. Personally, I’ve been there and done that. As a young person in love, I have made my life and relationship about my significant other and lost all my sense of identity. It often takes a toll on a person’s mental health. This is why it is essential to find ways to not only hold onto your sense of self and identity but also keep your relationship healthy. Here are some simple tips to maintain your identity in a relationship.
How To Maintain Your Identity In A Relationship?
1. Find The Root Of The Problem
Self-reflection is often the key to most problems. The best way to deal with this problem is to understand yourself and why you feel the need to sacrifice yourself and your needs in a relationship. Are you insecure? Are you afraid of being left alone or abandoned? Try to find answers to your behaviour and understand who you are and what you want from your relationship.
2. Get Your Priorities Right
In order to maintain your sense of self, begin by getting your priorities right. Focus on your own need, personal development, hobbies, career and growth. Try to find a way to balance your relationship with your needs instead of ignoring yourself. Prioritise yourself a little more than you usually would. This can make you feel more comfortable with yourself and increase your confidence.
3. Maintain Your Social Circle
More often than not, we tend to forget our social circle, friends, family and loved ones when in a relationship. Consciously make efforts to stay in touch with your loved ones and make plans with them that do not include your partner. Spend time with your friends as well. Understand that there’s nothing wrong with having different social circles. You don’t have to always spend time with their friends or include them in your social circle.
4. Set Some Boundaries
Setting boundaries is essential for all relationships. Healthy boundaries can help you maintain your identity and sense of self in a relationship. It’s okay to depend on your partner but in order to steer clear of codependency in a relationship boundaries are important. Tell your partner what is acceptable and what isn’t in your relationship. What are the things that matter to you? What is a dealbreaker? How much space do you need? What things about your life do you wish to keep to yourself? These boundaries ensure that your relationship and partner don’t consume you and your sense of self.
5. Spend Time With Yourself
It is extremely important to not only spend time alone with yourself but to be okay with keeping to yourself every now and then. Find time to take yourself out and pamper yourself. Use this me time to pursue what you enjoy like a hobby or learn something or simply do something for your own self.
6. Don’t Guilt Trip Yourself
It isn’t uncommon for a person to feel guilty about saying no to their partner and setting boundaries which is why they end up guilt-tripping themselves into ignoring their own needs and crossing boundaries to go the extra mile. But understand that there’s no need for you to feel guilty. It’s okay for you to do you in a relationship. You and your needs are also a part of your relationship and love life.
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As romantic as it sounds to lose yourself in love, it’s not healthy, practical or realistic. Try these tips to maintain your identity and sense of self.
First Published: November 09, 2022 1:18 PM
