We all know the craze of Shah Rukh Khan and the fandom for his characters like Raj, Rahul, and Aman. When I was growing up, Shah Rukh Khan movies were like the fairytales that I loved. I remember watching them and falling in love with all of his characters, particularly, Aman from Kal Ho Naa Ho. The film made me wish for an angel who would come and solve all my problems, just like Aman does for Naina and Jiya. When you’re young, you just care about the happy ending in the movie but that changes with age. Now when I re-watch these movies I end up analysing them so much more and catching problematic ideas behind some things that were advocated.
It’s been 19 years since the beloved Kal Ho Naa Ho premiered on the big screen. Yet the fandom for the movie is still not done showering it with love and attention. To celebrate 19 years of KHNH, I re-watched it last night and realised how there are lots of relationship lessons to pick up from it. In fact, I spotted 7 major relationship Don’ts that the film implies. Here’s a list!
7 Relationship Don’ts We Can Learn From Kal Ho Na Ho:
1. Don’t Get Married To A Person Because Someone Else Tells You It’s A Good Idea!
In Kal Ho Naa Ho, Aman convinces Rohit to marry Naina. And isn’t this just so absurd that someone else makes this huge decision in your life because, in the end, it is you who will have to live with that person for the rest of your life? Naina finds out that it wasn’t Rohit himself who got this idea to marry her and she feels betrayed. So you need to make your own decisions and not let anyone else dictate your life.
2. Don’t Chase A Woman Who Loves Somebody Else!
Don’t you all feel sorry for Rohit who tries so hard to get Naina even when he knows she is in love with Aman? This must be very exhausting in real life and not exactly fair to you also. You deserve to be in a relationship where your partner is also in love with you.
3. Never Fat-Shame The People That You Care About!
One of my favourite characters in the movie was Sweetu. She was an extremely adorable character and I hated the fact that her sister and best friend fat-shamed her. No matter the relationship, nothing gives you the right to fat-shame someone. Help people find their way to self-love instead, it matters a lot.
4. Always Remember The Fact That You’re A Prize
Various characters in the movie ended up feeling awful and losing out in terms of self-love and appreciation. This list includes Sweetu and Naina. They end up forgetting how special they are and this isn’t right. Always remember the fact that you’re a prize! You deserve the best that the world has to offer.
5. Don’t You Dare Give Up On Yourself
When we first meet Naina she appears to be a girl who is just surviving and doesn’t know how to live and enjoy her precious life. As the movie progresses we see her start changing but the love she is feeling isn’t self-love but her love for Aman. When she doesn’t get the love from Aman she wanted, she just gives up and goes back to just surviving. So this is one very important lesson we get, no matter what happens, you should not stop loving yourself and believing in yourself. Because if you believe in yourself everything is possible! And as Aman said, “koshish” is very important.
6. Everyone’s Love Language Is Different, Don’t Assume It Will Work Everywhere!
In the movie, we see how love is expressed in different forms by different characters. Love can be acceptance, love can be friendship, and love can mean sacrifice. Everyone loves in different ways and not everyone can understand it. So we should be accepting and appreciative of the love of others in any form. And also know that not everyone can accept your form of love.
7. Don’t Fall For Your Best Friend
Friendship is such a beautiful relationship, but falling in love with your best friend can be a risky business. In the movie, it worked out for Rohit, he got lucky to get to marry his best friend. But it comes at a huge cost for him as he has to love her enough for the both of them. Our lives are no movie, and falling in love with your best friend can be a gamble which might help you get everything you ever wanted or make you lose everything you ever had. So my advice, try to avoid it, it isn’t worth it.
Also Read: Preity Zinta Celebrated 19 Years Of ‘Kal Ho Naa Ho’ By Sharing Her Fav Scene. And It’s Pretty Much The Best Life Lesson From Aman!
If only our lives were like these romantic Bollywood movies, we would be sure to get a happy ending. But the best and worst part of our lives not being a Bollywood movie is that we have the power to control it. So, remember to always enjoy all of your relationships but also keep in mind what not to do, since we might not have an Aman who will solve them for us.