‘The Male Feminist’ Ep 3: Kirti Kulhari Says Motherhood Should Not Be Up For Discussion, It Should Be A Choice. Hear, Hear!
As a woman in the Indian patriarchal society, we don’t have it easy. Be it a decision to marry someone or be it divorce, it all comes with a lot of drama and scrutiny. There’s an age bar on marriage for women, judgement on divorce and motherhood is a whole different can of worms. If you have kids at an early age, you’re rushing and if you take too long to decide, you’re looked down upon. And dare you choose to not embrace motherhood, it’s yet another reason for society to judge our choice. In line with the same thought, actress Kirti Kulhari spoke to Hauterrfly’s very own The Male Feminist about motherhood, choice, marital separation and toxic relationships.
Pointing out that motherhood must be a choice and not something that should be up for discussion, Kirti Kulhari said, “Motherhood doesn’t even need to be discussed. Be it men or women, the least we can do is let people choose for themselves, choose what and how they want to live their lives.” We agree with her on this one. What a woman does with her body should be her choice and not something that should be discussed by anyone but her.
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When asked about her divorce, Kirti Kulhari revealed to The Male Feminist that the decision can be tough and painful but it’s also essential for one’s own peace of mind. “When you think of marriage, you think about the families and when you think of separating, you think about families. In our Indian society, family is something that tags along with you and it’s not just your own family but also your extended family. The decision to separate from your spouse is painful for you and also for your family. In fact, a lot of people stay in marriages because of their families and because of society. These are tough decisions but sometimes you just need to do what you need to do,” said the actress.
Also Read: ‘The Male Feminist’ Ep 3: Kirti Kulhari Doesn’t Like People Who Don’t Have The Balls To Be Themselves. We Love This Attitude!
The actress also spoke about toxic relationships and how it steals our peace of mind and joy. “When you talk about toxic relationships, it’s about how it makes you feel. If something is stealing your peace of mind, taking away the joy from you or any environment like that, it’s toxic. I feel you’re responsible for your own life and your own choices and you have to be the person who decides what’s more important for you. ‘Do I need to go where my peace of mind takes me?’ It’s a very simple decision in a broader sense but not the easiest to take. The decision to leave, let go and move on are very difficult decisions but they’re also the decisions that are very very important to take,” said Kirti Kulhari.
Watch the video to know more about what Kirti Kulhari has to say about feminism, consent, female representation in Bollywood and much more.
First Published: October 26, 2022 12:20 PM
